09-10-2019, 01:23 PM
(This post was last modified: 09-10-2019, 01:24 PM by Rainrider22.
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(09-10-2019, 01:02 PM)ijmorlan Wrote:Thank you Ijmoorlan....I couldnt have said it better myself. Empathy compassion, and understanding are actually guiding principles on which I try to lead my children by example. The term "jerk" is used anecdotally to describe a parent that doesn't always go along with the perceived norm. The "Jerk" teaches our kids that life just isn't always fair, you need to suffer set backs and and learn how to overcome obstacles yourself with out the parent stepping in and saving the day all the time. Studies are showing there is a real correlation between suicide of young people and parents trying to do everything for their children. We (parents and society) are doing our children a real disservice by not teaching them proper copping mechanisms by trying to save the day or mitigate their situations.(09-10-2019, 10:17 AM)danbrotherston Wrote: Oh good, a discussion on parenting, that's going to go well.
Honestly, I'm so sick and tired of people beliving that empathy, compassion, and understanding are negative traits.
I don’t think anybody said any of that here. My understanding of the above comments about “jerk” parents is that they are talking about having the kids figure stuff out for themselves, including things like transportation, rather than treating teenagers like preschoolers. This isn’t always appreciated by the kid at that moment in time, but if it’s done properly, the kid will usually realize at some point that they have skills that their more coddled peers do not.
It is definitely possible for a parent to be a jerk in a negative way, but that’s completely different from self-identifying as a “jerk”. In particular, there is a big difference between jerk and “jerk”.
I watch this video several times a year by Simon Sinek to remind myself why being a "Jerk" parent might just save my children's life one day. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xNgQOHwsIbg If you are a parent, have a watch. Sorry for detracting from the discussion topic here, but they totally took it off line over on Station Park about HSR, so why not here about an important subject...